Are you getting back into the dating scene after a divorce or breakup and feel like you've forgotten how to talk to a guy? Are you single and looking and find your social interactions with men to be awkward and difficult? Does talking to guys feel like work instead of fun?
There are some good reasons why talking to a guy you like may seem hard. Maybe you're shy. Maybe you fear rejection. Maybe you're socially anxious or have approach anxiety.
Here are a few ideas that can make putting yourself "out there" a little less intimidating and take a little pressure off of trying to figure out what to talk about with a guy.
Make a Comment
Next time you're out somewhere and you see a guy you want to talk to: instead of making it into a full-blown approach just try making a comment about something. "Boy this coffee is hot!", "Wow, look at that car driving with a flat tire."
It can be anything. This way you're not taking too much of a chance. It's more casual and there's no chance of rejection.
The beauty of it is if he's interested in finding out more about you, he'll continue the conversation. If not, maybe he'll comment back, maybe not and you just go on about your day. No harm, no foul!
Ask him a question
If the comment thing went well and you're standing there staring each other blankly in the face: you can try asking him a question. Or two. But don't make it sound like an interrogation.
This is a great way to find out a little more about him and to keep the conversation going. Just get him talking about himself.
It's not really hard finding things to talk about with a guy when you get him talking about himself!
Don't overthink it
One of the best things you can learn how to do when you're out there talking to guys is to stop overthinking what you're going to say.
Don't plan the conversation in your head before it starts or continuously evaluate what you're saying. If you do that, you're much more likely to go blank and "run out of things to say."
Talking to guys should be fun and casual.
Share something personal
If you've made your comment, asked him some questions and got him talking about himself then feel free to share something personal about yourself.
It's OK to talk about yourself too, just don't make it all about you. It's common to be nervous when you're talking to a guy and to revert to talking about what you know best. Yourself!
So be smart about how you disclose information about yourself and what you share. There's a balance to be struck. You can be playful and mysterious by sharing just a little bit and leaving him wondering about the rest!
Don't Take Yourself So Seriously
Try to remember that the things you talk about with a guy don't really matter much. The overall tone of the conversation is what will leave a lasting impression on him.
He probably won't remember much of the exact details of the conversation. But he'll remember how you made him feel.
So don't take yourself too seriously. Don't worry so much about the outcome of the conversation. Just keep it light and fun when you're talking to guys and you'll get better and more comfortable with it.
Conclusion
Next time you find yourself wondering how to talk to a guy, just try to remember how simple it can be. You just need to be able to keep it light, casual and fun.
You already know pretty much everything there is to talk to guys about. Comment on what's going on around you, ask him questions and share a little about yourself.
It's really simple stuff but it becomes difficult when we overthink it and take ourselves too seriously. I wish you the best.
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Thanks for the post and tips.even I also think that hard work is the most important aspect of getting success
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